What is Self-Love and Self-Care and Why You Need It.

Why Self-Care matters?

It tells you a lot about yourself and what you need to be your best self. Self-care will help you deal with tension more effectively and prioritize your desires. When you prioritize your own interests, you’ll be more able to look after others.

Self-care Tips:

• Eat nutritious meals, get plenty of sleep, workout daily, and stay away from drugs and alcohol. Manage the stress and see the doctor on a daily basis.

• Maintain a healthy level of hygiene. Good hygiene is beneficial for social, medical, and psychological purposes because it increases how people see you and how you see yourself.

• Make plans to see friends to strengthen your sense of belonging. Joining a support group or club will help you meet more new people.

• Every day, try to do something you love. This may include dancing, enjoying a favorite TV show, gardening, drawing, or writing.

• Relax by doing things like meditation, yoga, having a massage, taking a swim, or going on a stroll in the park.

While self care is essential for your well being, self love is also just as important.

Can’t think how to get started? Just write the first thing that pops into your head. Anne Lamott, author of a book on writing we love, says that you need to give yourself permission to write a “crappy first draft”. Anne makes a great point — just start writing, and worry about editing it later.

Why self love matters?

Self-acceptance and self-love are essential components of good health and satisfaction. They are the characteristics that have a direct impact on our physical, physiological, and emotional well-being. Your heart will be opened by self-love, and you will act with goodness, sympathy, and joy. You’ll be more grateful and you’ll be focusing less on what’s wrong with your life and more on what’s right.

Self Love Tips:

Growing up I struggled with giving myself the love I needed. I was my harshest critic. If something went wrong, I would take a lot of the blame onto myself. I would also set unrealistically high standards for myself and if I made a mistake, I wouldn’t treat myself so kindly.

If this sounds familiar, then here are the tips that I have been doing over the past few years that helped me combat this:

Treat yourself like you would treat your best friend

So let’s say you made a mistake and you are thinking to yourself about all the things you could have done to avoid that and how you are incapable of doing anything right. However, let’s say your best friend did the same exact thing and was telling you about it, you would most likely try to comfort them and tell them that it is okay. That is how you should be treating yourself.

You are not defined by your past mistakes

It is difficult to constantly feel the pressure of being perfect and not making mistakes. It is time to embrace your imperfections and keep growing from them.

This is the process to think through it:

Is the mistake that happened fixable?

If yes, then you can approach it and face it head on.

If not, then you can just accept it and try to do better next time.

Constantly dwelling without taking action or accepting the mistakes and moving forward can badly affect your mental health.

Drop any harmful people

If you truly want to grow and become more compassionate and kinder to yourself, then it is time to let go of certain people in your life.

It is difficult to grow if you are surrounded by people who are constantly being negative. Once you take out those negative people from your life, you can then allow room for more supportive and positive people to come into it.

Finally…

All these things mentioned are easier said than done so being patient and understanding is very important as this can take time to learn and develop.